How Can You Let Go of a Lover?
Posted by: Wannaknow on
February 14, 2010
How do you let go??
this guy i was seeing broke up with me a year ago. I have known him for years but only dated for 6 months. I thought time would have healed me. I had not seen him in 8 months until i saw him the other day. I Am still in love with him. I can't stop the way i'm feeling. I really wish i could stop, because he has moved on but i seem too stuck. How do I let go? How do I stop loving him. How do i stop missing him? HOW DO I STOP??? HOW DO I LET GO??? i feel like i lost my best friend.
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Wannaknow says:
Thank you L.A. I have never felt this way about anybody i have dated b4. I see him often now and i don't say a word to him in the fear of making a fool of myself. He works at the same place that i do. So i see him quite often. but i don't say a word. i act like i dont care but deep down...anyways, I just can't wait for my feeling for him to just go away. It just seems like its taking forever. I don't wanna date anybody right now, while i still have feelings for this one. I don't think that would be fare to the person i date. thanks again for your kind words.
L.A. says:
It's hard, I don't know how old you are or if this was your first love but it will happen. I've gone through the same kind of agony myself, a few times in my life. When you start dating again, take it slow and someone else will be more deserving of your love. Whatever you do, don't tell the new person you still think about the other one. That'll taint things for him. Open your heart and welcome love. It won't be the same but it can be just as great in different, new ways. You put your feelings on the backburner for the other one and eventually they'll fade. You're not abnormal to feel that after a year, especially if everything was going great and you were blindsided (the relationship ended without warnings). You will eventually find a new best friend if you let it happen. Good luck!
Alvin128 says:
You have to accept that between you and your guy is definitely over. Acceptance is the key.
Try to move on. I know it's going to be hard. I guess you're still hoping against hope that both of you will be together again someday. But then, it is already 8 months now. It's a hint that majority wise he's not coming back.
Move on. Learn also to recognize that tomorrow has a better event/thing to offer. And that if you can love in that manner in the past, certainly you can love again in the future as intense as that. Don't make your world small.
Just A Thought says:
Find a new beau to fill in the void
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