Why does my boyfriend ignore me and shut me out?
Posted by: PrairieBlue on
January 29, 2010
My boyfriend purposely shuts me out sometimes, wont reply to any form of communication and then says "I thought you were busy" even though he knows I wasn't. He then proceeds to blame me for "getting myself all worked up" and tells me to "get over it", tells me I am crazy and pretends nothing happened. He never apologizes for hurting my feelings, just keeps giving me same old worn out excuses.
Just curious what other people's opinions and input are on this and maybe suggestions on how to handle this and to have better communication.
READER COMMENTS
Eric72 says:
Lol. Don't listen to Alvin. Although, because we really don't know both sides of the story, he could be right. But just by going with what you have posted, you've tried to communicate with him, he makes excuses like "you were busy" even though he knew you weren't, and that he's deflecting the issue by saying "getting myself all worked up" and "get over it". Please take no offence to this, but it sounds like this is young "love".
If you've tried to communicate only to be blocked off, and he's made no effort to put you at ease, or the very least be upfront and honest with you. Give it one more shot. Be sincere, honest, and upfront with him. Talk to him like you really care about your relationship (which sounds like you do). But if he still pulls the same thing, well I think it's time for YOU to start re-evaluating the relationship. Quoting Rob Base, "it takes two to make things go right, it takes two to make it out of sight". In the end, this isn't about him, it's about you. Your emotional and mental well-being. No person is worth compromising that. And yes, there are plenty of fish out there. His loss is someone's else's gain. Be well, take care of yourself first. Good luck.
Alvin128 says:
On what he is trying to do is to make you feel what he is feeling and that he is being ignored. It was already a cue on his answer that ...you were busy. Someone here is being sensitive and another is being insensitive.
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