Don't you think men staring at other women is disrespectful?
Posted by: Hl on
September 18, 2009
It is said all the time that men (all men) look at other woman but don't you think when they are with their girlfriend or wife it's disrespectful? I think some women's attitudes make it worse, they like to make the other woman feel like crap and get something out of the fact their man is looking at them. I think woman need to come together and not give the other woman attitude and respect each other if the men aren't.
READER COMMENTS
Eric72 says:
There is nothing wrong with looking at other women. Women do it all the time too with good looking guys. But women try to hide what most men do in the open. However, there is looking and there is OGLING. When men or women look at another person, and allow themselves to get aroused (by the person they are looking at), to fanticize about that person, and completely ignore your other half, THEN there's a problem. And YES, THAT is disrespectful. Personally, I think it's healthy in a relationship to look at other people. It shows your human, and you aren't insecure. But it all depends on the maturity level of each individual. I'm in my 30s and most of the women I've been involved with have been pretty mature and level headed. We've actually made a game of it. "what do you think of her" they'd ask. "what do you think of him" I'd ask. It all ended up ending with, "but I'd rather be with you". Most young people, are too insecure, and take offence when there other half looks at other people. This not only shows that your insecure, but it also shows that you are or can be a jealous person. All of which are deal breakers for a lot of guys. Put it this way. If your other half is going to cheat on you (and really this is what this topic boils down to), there is nothing you can do about it. You might as well know it sooner than later. What I advise my friends, is to be yourself. Don't compromise your integrity. Don't be that "ball and chain", because if he/she does decide to follow his urges and makes good on the ogling, you dump them right there and then. No talking over, just end it and move on. Not only can you be proud of yourself that you didn't stoop to his/her level, but you know that you were the better person in that relationship. There are plenty of decent guys out there. You just have to learn how to pick the right ones for you. So go ahead, look, enjoy the scenery with your other half. Just don't break each others' trust.
Word says:
To be honest, I really find it ridiculous that a man would stare at another woman. If by staring you mean all out attention to this one lady then that's extremely stupid. Their attention should be directed to their significant other who is supposed to be also attracted to. However glances are okay in my honest opinion if they just glance over at another girl for a few seconds then I'd find that okay. It happens and it's unconditional at some times. Yes your significant other is the most beautiful woman to you, but there are other beautiful people in the world.
As for me, the only time I stare at other people is either A) When my significant other asks me to stare at someone to see what they're wearing and see if it would work with her. Or B) While I'm at work where I encounter over thousands of people a day, and I check out what they're wearing so I can rely such information when I go shopping with my significant other.
Marsy says:
YES totally agree! The worst part is that the already KNOW how it makes you feel YET they keep doing it! wtf is that?
Hopeful says:
Hear,Hear I'm so happy I'm not alone. This is what I've been saying. It makes you feel like you are a third wheel. This happen's to me pretty much evertime we go out. I hate it. I have told my husband how it makes me feel and he get's up-set because I have said something.One evening he was very affectionate to me,Never looked at anyone.I felt good and had a wonderful time(relaxed). I said to him when we got home thank-you for the lovely evening.His reply was "I'm glad you had a nice time" and he never said it politely either,it was meant to be mean and hurtful.So now I hate going to dinner's and dance's or anywhere for that fact.Hoping one day he get's it....
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