What are your thoughts on a threesome?
Posted by: Wendy on
June 29, 2009
Ive been dating a guy for almost two years now and have been living together for 1 year.. He has never told me that he loves me or I have not told him either.. We get along fantastically and are together whenever we can.. The problem is now that he is talking more about a threesome.. I knew he always wanted one but now its getting talked about alot more. He said that he would not have one without me.. He wants to try ffm . I have never experienced one before and am not very turned on my other females.. I am secure in the relationship and think I could go through with it.. I wouldnt mind to have some comments on this subject. Thanks.. Hope to hear from you soon.....
READER COMMENTS
Fyndy says:
Whether or not you think you can go through with it, and what happens if it does happen are two very different things.
Most guys do have a threesome fantasy, but there are some very serious things you two need to talk about. Have you thought about the feelings that will be involved? Will you feel jealous when he gives his attention to the other female? Are you even turned on by the idea of becoming a "viewer"?
You said you are not turned on by other females....this is something that will not change just by having a threesome. You may end up feeling forced to do things with another female that you really don't want to, just to please him.
I know everyone says to think about it before you do, but I'm really encouraging you to stop and think about this before you do it. There are some very negative emotional consquences that even the most secure couple have trouble navagiating through.
Don't do this just to please him or to get him to say the L word. If you both haven't said it now, a threesome will not make it happen either.
I wish you all the best, and remember, it's your body, your mind, and your emotional health. Take care of it ^___^
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