My Ex Calls - years after dumping me
Posted by: Victoria on
July 15, 2007
I'm 44, he is 42. We dated for a year & a half. He dumps me 4 years ago. Of course during those 4 years we both dated other people. Fast forward to the present. He calls me completely out of the blue at the end of May, currently it's the middle of July 2007. We've been seeing eachother and it's like no time has passed. Yes we love each other and have been intimate. I have been married before, he has not. Neither of us have children. I live in R-Hill, he in Oakville and we see eachother on weekends and at least one evening during the week. He drives out to my place. We communicate alot via phone, text message & on MSN. He has briefly mentioned moving in together (note: he has never had a live-in before). There is so much laughter, love, deep feelings, passion and magic with us. He owns his own house and his brother & his kids live in the basement (they have been downstairs for 5 years). I WILL NOT move in to this home (he knows this) while the brother & kids are there because there is a lack of privacy. This was a problem years ago when I would visit on weekends with all the extra people coming & going. Yes there is a sep entrance however there is a door inside that seperates the upstairs/downstairs which my honey refuses to lock to keep his brother and kids from coming upstairs. How does someone approach the subject of having those basement dwellers move out first before beginning our life? We are not in our 20's anymore, we are in our 40's now. Is it unrealistic for me to want privacy and our own space? I realize that living together does not promise marriage (which is something I would like down the road). I feel that my honey should by now realize that it's time for the basement dwellers to find their own place so my honey and I can start our own life. Should I stick around and wait for possibly something that may or may not happen? He knows that 5 years is along time for these people to still be there, but again they are family and can't kick them out. Pls help
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Tina says:
Well victoria I think the problem is that your not opening this up to your partner. You should at least ask him what his plans for your relationship are... so at least you know where you stand & if you'll be able to accept what his plans are
Anonymous says:
Why did he dump you the first time? and why does a 42 yo not have his own place?
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