View From Venus: Online Dating Profile Tips for Men

By Sarah Stefanson
[Personals]
Are you making one of these mistakes with your dating profile?  Sarah Stefanson lets you gentlemen know what just won’t fly.
I consider myself to be someone who has considerable expertise in the world of internet dating, mainly because I have done plenty of it.  In fact, I met my current fiancé on a dating site.  On the other hand, I also met the worst boyfriend in the world in the same manner, so I know the good and the bad, what to watch for and what to immediately delete.

Gentlemen, if your dating profile is getting no response (or the wrong kind of response), perhaps you should take a look at what you’re doing wrong.

Ladies, get some advice on your profile from Matthew in Message From Mars.

Screen Name

My sister recently put up a profile on a popular dating site.  Before she had even finished writing her blurb or posting her photos, she got an instant messaging request from a guy whose screen name was 'Mental Affliction'.  It should not come as any surprise that her response was an enthusiastic no.  Fellas, your screen name is your first chance to make a good impression online, so put some thought into it.  My sister claims she hesitated to put up her profile for weeks simply because she couldn’t think of a good enough screen name.  Your online moniker should be original, should express something about yourself and should not scare off potential dates at the outset.  Avoid words like player, crazy or hot.  You should not have to tell her you are hot (your pictures should do that for you), expressing mental illness right off the bat is never a good idea and if you are seeking anything other than casual sex, your screen name indicating you’re a ladies’ man is going to get you nowhere.

Also, don’t be boring.  I don’t know how many stoonguy41-like screen names I’ve ignored in the past.  If the most exciting thing about you is that you live in the same city as the girl you’re approaching, you’ve got some work to do on yourself.

Seeking

Be honest about what you’re seeking.  If all you really want is a casual Friend with Benefits, listing your intentions as Long-Term Relationship may increase the amount of responses you’ll get, but you’ll be wasting your time and the time of the women who believed you were in it for the long run.  If you’re not quite sure what you want, a safe bet is to describe yourself as Dating, so that you can attract both women seeking a fun, casual relationship and those who might have ideas about a future together.  Then you can decide as you go where the relationship is headed.
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