Men On The Down Low: A Guide For Women[Intimacy & Sexuality]
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Choose a time and place where you can both be alone, and ask your boyfriend or husband about their sexuality and sexual history. Communication is vital to any healthy relationship. When talking to your partner about his sexuality, ask him if he has ever desired or fantasized about being with another man. Your partner may become defensive or he might not take your questions seriously. You should reassure him that you are asking because you care and that you deserve the truth. In addition, when talking to your husband or boyfriend about his sexual history, ask him if he has ever been sexually active with another man. Even if you have already asked before, ask him again with questions that are more detailed. The Gray Area Sexuality is not as clear-cut as we would like. Your husband or boyfriend may only be curious about other men, and could in fact be straight. This lifestyle could only be a phase. You should consider this before ending your relationship because you may be losing someone very special. The Signs How can you tell if your partner is cheating on you with another man? What are the signs? I could tell you to check his Internet history or look at how he interacts with his male friends. But what would that be saying about your relationship? Where is the trust? Why all the paranoia? To put it simply, there are no guaranteed signs that your husband or boyfriend is on the down low. The whole point of the lifestyle is to live undetected. So, stop searching for warning signs. Instead, tackle the homophobia in your community that contributes to the down low. Men only live this lifestyle because they feel forced into fake relationships with women to keep their homophobic family and friends satisfied. Try joining a club that supports gay/lesbian rights and equality. Not only would you be helping your partner, but you would also be helping countless of other women and men. _____________________________ put yourself first You deserve to be with a man who is loving and committed. Do not settle for anyone who lies to you and puts your life at risk. It is not worth it. Love is honest. Love is real. Take charge of your happiness. |
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