I just wanted to let you guys know how awesome of a writer I think Rakesh Singh is. I stumbled upon his article 5 Pants For Every Man's Closet and loved his cartoon references. I've now read all of his articles on TheSoko.com and all were amusing. I think I'll have my guy friends take a look.

Amused,
Joanna

Do we know Anything about Women? 

I just read the article by Terrence Fernandes called How to Know if She's Into You.

I am absolutely stunned. Obviously this man has NO idea about women. Some of his points were valid regarding the physical clues, however most of his suggestions on how to "bag the girl" were completely off the mark.

The message I took away from that article was: 
 
"Lie. If you are being yourself and she doesn't like you for who you are, then lie some more. Do whatever it takes to get what you want. Be dishonest about who really you are in order to succeed. As long as you get laid in the end, it's all good."
 
Very sad suggestions from Mr. Fernandez, indeed. This is exactly why women are disgusted with men.

Imagine the woman's horror when she realizes the brilliant, sweet, thoughtful guy she fell in love with is actually a pornography addict and serial cheater. Or how about the woman who was the victim of rape, because the guy turned out to be an animal who couldn't take "no" for an answer when she found out what he really was.
 
I am just one woman with some experience with duplicitous relationships. Now I am digging a little harder to get to the truth before I take that plunge again.
 
Perhaps Mr. Fernandes' next article could be "How a Woman Can Tell if a Man is Lying to Them." Now THAT would be an article woirth reading.

Terrence Fernandez Says:

Melinda,

The latter part of the article aimed to assist males who become insecure in the presence of a female they like. An insecure male isn't acting like himself. Rather than be insecure the article offers advice on how to make affection reciprocal. The expected audience was such males with a history of few second-dates, not the deceptive type that both of us dislike.

Let's be honest, most men and women act differently on the first few dates (more reserved, shy, etc). The line "This doesn't have to be a long-term performance" suggests that men don't have to adopt a different persona or lie through the course of their relationship, it merely says that if she sees a side of you she likes, let her see more of that side. The article offers advice to prevent a relationship from crumbling before it even gets started.

I agree that some men can manipulate their characteristics to appear opposite their true nature. However, I do not condone such behavior and firmly believe the article doesn't contradict my intentions. Hopefully, women can notice the difference between a "brilliant, sweet, thoughtful guy" and "a pornography addict and serial cheater".

Thanks for you comments and I hope you read "How To Know If He's Lying", which I plan to write in the New Year.

-Terence

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