How to Deal with Lost Love

By Kevin Fleming

Kevin Fleming lays down the law on how to deal with lost loves that make a sudden reappearance in your life. 

If you have ever perused the various websites dedicated to quotations, it’s hard not to miss the numerous quotes dedicated to lost loves. Let’s face it, a vast majority of us have loved and lost, as it is a part of life. For most, we’re able to forgive and forget and move on with someone else. However, I suspect that there are a lot of us who never forget a lost love and all of the nostalgia that comes along with such thoughts. In today’s world of instant communication, it’s pretty easy to reconnect with a lost love, but doing so comes with risks. Let’s find out how to deal with a lost love.

Communication Overload
With the advent of social media and other means of looking up past flames, it’s no surprise to learn that people of all age groups take to the electronic superhighway to investigate whether their lost love is online. For those in the tech savvy younger generations, chances are that you probably have a lost love on your friends list, which if you have unresolved feelings (more on this later) can be a painful experience. This can be especially painful if they do not feel the same way and have moved on. My advice: Delete the individual from your friend’s list and start to move on. The less you know the better.

For those in our parent’s and even grandparent’s generation, social media and the Internet for that matter are catching on like wildfire. These electronic phenomena are leading to reconnections on in many age groups, regardless of whether they are still married. Dr. Nancy Kalish has been studying lost loves and such loves reconnecting since 1993 and what she has learned may be surprising for some. In a study she conducted, it was found that of those who reunited with lost loves in some form or another ranged from their 40’s to their 90’s. Specifically, 37 percent of reunions occurred when individuals were in their 40’s and 50’s, 10 percent reconnected in their 60’s and 70’s and 4 percent reunited in their 80’s and 90’s.

Needless to say, old flames die hard.

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