While most singles will claim that they aren’t picky when it comes to getting a date or even finding someone to call their own, singles can be the worst when it comes to making wish lists and hoping to have them fulfilled.  It’s important to have an idea of what you’re looking for in a man or woman:  is humour a quality you require in a potential mate, do you prefer geeks, or are you someone who needs to date a man or woman who can cook? 

It’s very important to know your own mind, especially if you’re single and looking.  You can cut down on spending years upon years dating men or women who are so far from what you’re looking for that after the warm happy feeling of a physical crush wears off, you’re unhappy.  Then you break up.  And start the cycle all over again.  So if you’ve made a wish list, but things are still going wrong, read on for some advice that will help you make the best of knowing what you want so you can find that special man or woman.

A Wish List

Here’s an example of a wish list.  A single’s ideal man or woman has to be:

• Funny—makes me laugh out loud and giggle
• Smart—but not cocky and condescending
• Dependable—someone who answers the phone when I call
• Good-looking—you know, in shape and well kept together
• Gainfully employed—money, money, money so we can eat out at nice restaurants
• Independent but able to commit—not clingy but someone who won’t keep me at arms length

Does this list sound familiar enough?  Singles around the world daydream of Mr. or Ms. Right and he or she is usually perfect, shiny white teeth, perfect disposition and all!  But there’s something wrong with obsessing over your wish list…