Ask Important Questions
Once you’ve identified what you disagree on, ask questions so you’re sure you understand what bothers your partner and what they’d like to be done. Then have them ask what your thoughts are on the situation and what you’d like the outcome to be. See if there are any commonalities, and work with them.

Some great questions to ask when you need to understand your partner better are:
-What’s your position on this issue?
-Why do you feel that way?
-What would you like me to do?
-What would you be willing to compromise on?
-How can we work together to come up with a solution?

Talking through the issue will help you learn about your partner. Chances are, you won’t always be on the same side. But you may find things that are common in all of the arguments that’ll help you avoid some in the future. For example, you notice you prefer
living free-spirited while your partner is worried when you don’t make definitive plans. Knowing each other can help you make small compromises before things even become an issue. You might keep your carefree streak when it comes to making small decisions, but you make plans for more serious things so both you and your partner are happy.

Find the Middle
There will undoubtedly be things you still can’t agree on, so try to find a totally separate option you’re both okay with. For example, you may get one thing you want from your partner and you’ll give them one thing they want, but you still can’t agree on some aspects of the issue. The remaining problems will have to have a solution that neither of you chose originally but both feel comfortable with.

For example, if you want to go out every night and your partner wants you to give up partying altogether, try to find the middle. Maybe you go out once a month, but you keep in contact with your partner by either brining them or texting once in a while. That way, you still get your freedom while your partner feels acknowledged.

It Takes Some Understanding
Compromising is something that exists in all healthy relationships. It wouldn’t be fair if you always got what you wanted, or if you were always giving and not receiving. A healthy relationship is one that calls for you to keep the needs of another in mind while respecting who they are as a person. Don’t try to change someone, and don’t stand for someone trying to change you.

Facing issues is normal, and you have to be able to come to some kind of agreement. If you don’t, you’ll end up breaking up with someone every time you don’t have the exact same outlook on life. You may be highly compatible, but you’ll never share opinions on everything.