When you've been with your partner for a while, the sex can tend to fall into routine. You both probably notice this and yet neither knows what to do or whether it's a problem that needs fixing. The thing is, that's up to you. Are you both content with your sex life, one that consists of the same moves, the same sounds, the same reactions to the same touches? Then perfect—no need to read on.

But if you want to try something new and exciting to bring the fire back into your sex, there are a few simple approaches that will help make your sexlife a life and not just an existence.

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This cannot be stressed enough. So often, sex is treated as this holy grail or treasured gift. When you're married, however, it can become a chore, making you wonder what the big deal was in the first place! Here's the secret: it's not a big deal. Making it 'special' isn't what you're looking for. You want to have fun! Tease each other. Be ridiculous. Be embarrassed! Put yourself on the line and expect your partner to do the same.

You shouldn’t be afraid to laugh during sex—it doesn’t have to be a solemn occasion. Be goofy when you get creative—maybe you never expected to like wearing that slutty nurse's costume during sex but then you discovered kinks long ignored and voila! A sexlife is born.