View From Venus: Approaching Weight Issues

By Kelly Morrison
[View From Venus]
An “Us” Thing
So what are a few positive spins to put on this issue? Make it a relationship building exercise as well as a physical workout. Don’t suggest that it’s a problem with your partner at all, but a trend that you’ve been noticing in BOTH of you. Working out together doesn’t have to be a chore or even a big deal, it could be as easy as joining a gym together. If a gym really isn’t her thing, the how about taking long walks together, jogging, biking, swimming, or taking... yes, I’m about to go there... a dance class together. Find something that she’ll enjoy and take the initiative to sign the TWO of you up for it. Not only can you avoid the “Honey, have you noticed how fat you’re getting?” conversation of death, but you can also score yourself some points for remembering that she’s always wanted to learn to downhill ski and go rock climbing, but has never gotten around to it.

A Pampering Thing
To pull this one off without crossing the judgement line takes a bit more skill and a more thorough knowledge of your partner. That said, its very directness can work in your favour by yielding faster results. This is a gamble you will have to decide for yourself whether or not you want to risk. This is the option where you sign her up for something solo that you think will be better for her if you aren’t there.

For this to work out, you need to put some serious research into choosing the activity. For some women, their man getting them a personal trainer would be synonymous with him saying outright, “Hey there Porky, time to downsize!” But that doesn’t mean it’s dangerous for all women. Only you, and perhaps her close friends, will know if it would be a good move for you or not. Other options would be a membership to a classy women’s gym complete with spa, or membership to a women’s club or sports team that is a sport you know she used to love, but has fallen away from in recent years.

Your research and the obvious time you spent thinking about this will pay off in how she receives it. Whether or not she suspects deep down that you think she’s getting dangerously close to chubby, the time and energy that you put into the solution will speak for itself in your desire to make her happy. And the thought will count for something.
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