Exercise Caution
If your partner is a significant person in your life, then your relationship is worth protecting. It is better to air on the side of caution when you realize that you are entering into a situation your partner would not like. The boundaries that you draw together are not ones that you should push or tip toe up to trying to test the waters on the border. These lines are comfort lines. Once you know what makes your partner uncomfortable, it would be considerate for you to avoid that type of behaviour. If you feel restricted by the boundaries your partner has placed on you and you feel they are a little bit too much, slightly over the top, or just plain ridiculous, then re-evaluate the situation.

Does your partner have trust issues that need to be addressed? Or are you not ready for the kind of commitment your partner is looking for? These are red flag issues that can often be brought up by people’s behaviour towards other members of the opposite sex. If the relationship is worth preserving, then tread carefully and respect your partners comfort zone. If your relationship’s restrictions are driving you crazy, maybe it’s time to save your sanity and put the brakes on this stale romance.

Forgiveness or Damnation?
Many people have wondered over the course of their romantic history whether cheating is a forgivable offence, and like most things in life and love, there is no one solid answer. Different people will feel and act differently toward any given challenge. Forgiveness is often the high road in life, but in love we need to be a little more careful with our second chances.

If the relationship is a long-term one with commitment and dependants, then the idea of throwing it away because of a one-time mistake may be a little hasty. If the relationship is a short one and the cheater didn’t realize their behaviour was seen as unfaithfulness, then perhaps apologies can be accepted and no picture burning has to take place. However, these situations are not as common as other, less forgivable, forms of cheating. Repeat offenders should probably be given a hasty farewell. Unapologetic offenders should be locked out. And guilt trip, “really it’s your fault, not mine,” offenders should be locked up.

Forgiveness is the high road, but slugging it out along the low road and leaving an unfaithful partner in the dust will make your life, in love and in other areas, much happier.

Preventative confrontation is the key to maintaining the peace in this relationship arena. When the first hint of jealousy or discomfort arises, take the opportunity to discuss faithfulness expectations with your partner. Getting everything out on the table will keep your relationship healthy and happy.