Message From Mars: Bad Reasons To Break UpBy Matthew Stefanson [Message From Mars]
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 Couples fight. Some do it recreationally, some do it as their principal bonding experience. Some do it with raised voices or flying fists and others work in a more sedate and reasoned tone. Whatever your method or frequency, you're going to have a few fights in your time together, but that doesn't mean that you're in a dysfunctional relationship. This thing that you're engaging in together is by its very nature a turbulent thing. Relationships are a tangle of emotions, arousal, jealousy, hard decisions and sacrifice. They're so messy and difficult that it's a wonder anyone ever gets themselves into one. But of course, that's why they're great. For a lot of people, a relationship is the only genuine human experience they will ever have. You'll never work up the courage to tell your boss what a waste of skin he is, but you will have the opportunity to call your girlfriend a liar and bitch 50 times in the first year of your relationship. So don't let your first big fight ruin what could have been a really special arrangement. Don't go to your buddies and tell them that you think it's over, that you don't even want her back, that you're glad she's gone…unless you really mean that. Unless, of course, something completely unforgivable was said, go back, apologize and work through it like a grownup. Consider Carefully Breaking up is just as important a skill as asking someone out, but you don't have to exercise that muscle at every opportunity. You have to carefully consider your motivations because there's nothing worse than sitting around and wondering if you made a mistake and let the wrong one go. |
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