View From Venus: Bad Reasons To Break Up

By Sarah Stefanson
[View From Venus]
Whose opinion matters when trying to decide if you should break up?  Sarah Stefanson outlines some poor excuses for ending a relationship.
Sometimes a break up is perfectly justified, as we covered in last week’s View From Venus:  Good Reasons To Break Up.  Other times, the right thing to do is not so clear.  Do you have a good enough reason to end your relationship or could you work on your problems and improve things between you?

This week in View From Venus, the ladies and I will be going over a few bad excuses for ending a relationship, while in Message From Mars, Matthew will be talking to the gentlemen about whether their justification is sound.

The Opinions Of Others

Perhaps your circle of girlfriends isn’t very fond of your guy or maybe your mom can’t stand him.  The people that are close to you should have your best interest at heart and if they have major objections to your relationship with your boyfriend, you should definitely hear them out.  However, if your friends or family’s reasoning behind disliking your man isn’t something that you think necessitates a break up, feel free to file their advice away in your brain and keep working on your relationship.  Although they love you, they are not always right and you know your connection with him better than anyone.  Some relationships appear very differently to the outside world than they do to the people involved in them.  Assure your loved ones that you are aware of the flaws in your relationship and that you are both trying to be better people for each other.  They should calm down after they’re certain that you’re relatively happy.

Suspicious Minds And Wandering Eyes

Jealousy is a very destructive emotion.  Everyone feels it to some extent at one point or another, but if you let it rule your life, you will never be able to maintain a healthy, committed relationship.  If you are constantly looking through his pockets or his email for evidence of wrong doing or admonishing him on a daily basis for being too friendly to a cute sales clerk, you’d better have some evidence to back up your suspicion.  Has he cheated on you or past partners before?  Is he especially secretive and evasive?  Does he have trouble accounting for his whereabouts the night before?  If he has never given you any indication that he’s less than trustworthy and you are giving him the third degree every night, you are the one with the problem.  Your rampant distrust is not a good reason to break up with him, but it might be a justifiable excuse for him to break up with you.
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