Bachelor’s Degree: Is She Worth It?

By Tyler Kalmakoff
[Bachelor's Degree]
Committing yourself to a woman is no small decision.  Tyler Kalmakoff helps you evaluate her long-term potential with a series of critical questions.
You know it’s coming.  You can see it.  Some of us may go through it many times during our masculine existences, while some won’t have to.  Either way, as a bachelor, we know, understand and accept that commitment day is no national holiday.  It is a day of reflection.  It is a day that defines us at every turn.  We grow from it.  It—this day we’re talking about here—is decision day.  To commit or not to commit?  But first you must ask yourself one question:  Is she worth it?

Us men see everything as an investment.  Every situation is a win or lose situation.  So before we dive in, naturally we evaluate and hedge on the possible outcomes.  Most of us—even the idealistic ones—are cautiously optimistic when it comes time to commit and rightfully so.

It’s universal.  Guys do one of three things:  some cheat, some leave to avoid cheating and the rest stay put and sulk until they meet their end.  No man ever wants to find himself in any of those three positions.  Once we commit, we want to stay happy, no different from any woman out there.  But we just don’t want to be wrong.  We hate being wrong.  It’s the competitiveness that lives deep within our souls.  We need to know what we’re getting ourselves into.  We need to know if she’s worth it.  And the only way to find answers is by asking ourselves a series of critical questions.

What Has She Done For You Lately?

When faced with a commitment decision, the first thing you must do is compare your current relationship status with the original spark and enthusiasm.  Has it increased?  How much has it increased?  Has it fallen?  How far has it fallen?  Is it worth your time and effort to maintain the relationship over the long haul?  Is she too good to be true?  Are there things that separate her from the rest?

These are basic questions you must ask yourself once commitment time comes.  And trust me, commitment time will come.  It’s inevitable.  One of you will reach a breaking point where you’ll want something more concrete or maybe it will be rhythmically mutual.  Either way, you’ll have to decide.  And to do so you’ll have to hold her, yourself and your relationship together up in front of a mirror and perform a critical evaluation.  Talk with your buddies all you want, but, in the end, this one’s on you.

Timing Is Everything

At some point during your evaluation you’ll wonder, “Have we even gone through the necessary paces?  Are we actually ready to make this decision?  Do we have to commit already?”  To flush out the nerves you’ll have to ask yourself another set of questions.

What has she proven?  What hasn’t she done well?  What deep commonalities do you have?  (And it has to be something deeper than music, movies and other general tastes and preferences.)  On a 1 to 10 scale, with 10 being the most enthusiastic, what is your level of sexual compatibility?  Is she needy or distant?  Which do you prefer?

This second batch of questions will involve a lot more thought, a lot more effort and you’ll probably need to put up with some serious bouts of anxiety from some of the answers, but again, they’re questions that need to be asked.  If you’re not asking them, you’re not being a responsible man.  No matter how sure you think you are, if you don’t ask yourself the tough questions you’ll be merely diving headlong into another relationship you know nothing about.
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