View From Venus: Be A Better Lover, For Men

By Sarah Stefanson
[View From Venus]
Let It Out

Everyone’s got a kink or a fantasy that they are hesitant to share with their sex partners.  The goal should be to find a person you trust enough to share your innermost sexual thoughts and perhaps explore some of your deep, dark desires.  Chances are, your scary sex ideas are not as wild as you think they are.  You might reveal something the two of you secretly have in common.  If your partner is thoroughly freaked out by your kink and isn’t willing to even consider trying it, then she isn’t the one for you.  Keep looking.

Yes, Women Like Foreplay

It’s true.  Women dig foreplay.  Most of the time it’s necessary for them to have truly satisfying sexual experiences.  Their sex organs needs some time to prepare and their brains appreciate the pleasure introduction as well.  Instead of trying to figure out how you can get around her need for foreplay, how about you do something really revolutionary and just enjoy it?  Kissing, touching, caressing and becoming aroused feels good so slow down and savour it instead of rushing through it.  The longer you keep up the foreplay, the more animalistic her desire will be when you finally get to the penetration.

Relax

Perhaps the easiest and best first step you can take to becoming a better lover is to chill out a little.  Stop worrying about whether you’re doing the right thing, what she thinks about the size of your penis or how you stack up to the guys that have come before you.  Sex is about pleasure.  Try having fun in the bedroom.  It’s the adult version of playtime so leave your worries and cares at the door.

Get in touch with Sarah at sarah (at) thesoko (dot) com.
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