That Said

Be adventurous.  Be spontaneous and fun.  Just stay within an acceptable spectrum.  There's plenty that you can do and plenty that does appear in Cosmo that any man would love.  Anything from exhibitionism to role-playing is a pretty safe bet, though you have to take into account the type of man that you're involved with.  You should know what he'd be into, though it doesn't always matter if you think he's not the type.  Unless you know implicitly that he's not going to dig something, you can propose pretty much anything in the heat of the moment and your fellow will be down.  We're incredibly open to new possibilities when we're about to get laid.  It opens up a very agreeable part of our minds.

The most important thing is that sex keeps being interesting for everyone.  Most of the time that just means being interested.  We get complacent after a while in our sexual roles and we need to keep watch to make sure that we're still performing to the best of our ability.  A good way to fight boredom is to try new things.

And Of Course...

Nothing beats a good old-fashioned conversation.  You won't find what he's looking for without actually asking him about it.  The suggested venue is the bedroom.  Before or during the act, you can inquire into his interests and he will probably have something ready to go.  We're so timid and strange about sex most of the time that a little frankness is much appreciated.

Share your thoughts with Matthew at matthew (at) thesoko (dot) com.