Signs Of A Healthy Relationship

By Lisa Xing
[Relationships]
What does silence have to do with a healthy relationship?  Lisa Xing shares some indicators that your relationship is on the right track.
Judging relationships is kind of a grey area because everybody is different and people’s preferences, likes and dislikes are never the same.  However, there are certain aspects of a relationship that tend to indicate whether a certain relationship is bound for success or not.  It’s also important to keep in mind that relationships don’t exist in a void.  They are affected by a slew of outside factors as well, which complicates them even more.  By no means are any of these factors standardized or else relationships would be much easier than they actually are, but it is something to keep in mind.

Spending Time Apart

In the beginning of a relationship, it can be tough to spend time apart.  This is completely normal and you should embrace this period, as it is probably one of the best stages of a relationship.  Once the relationship progresses, a healthy relationship is usually one in which both people can take time and be apart for a while and still be happy.  This doesn’t mean a breakup or a break or anything along those lines.  It refers to being able to go on a vacation with friends, for example, and not be constantly wishing you were with your significant other or incessantly texting or calling him or her.  It’s important to be able to maintain a certain level of autonomy and, if not, the relationship may become a bit too co-dependent.

Time Spent Together

Conversely, the quality of the time spent together is also something that may be indicative of a successful and healthy relationship.  When some couples spend time together, they are literally together.  They can’t focus on their own tasks.  For example, can you read a magazine while he’s working on a report without constantly distracting each other?  This is another important aspect of being together—being able to be apart while being together.  While this may not seem like an important issue, it really is, because it shows that you can be your own person and be independent while still with someone else.
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