Wedding As Status Symbol

For many people, men and women alike, the elaborateness and expensiveness of their wedding is a status symbol.  The bigger the event, the more important you are.  This is perhaps especially true among women who are incredibly competitive with each other.  Women carefully observe other people’s weddings and apply what they learn to their own.  A successful and impressive wedding is a major ego boost for the bride.

Prove Your Love

Another reason she may want a wedding with all the trimmings is the long-standing idea that the more you spend on your wedding (in terms of money, effort and time) the more you love your spouse-to-be.  This is absolutely absurd in my view, but for many women, it is a reality.  This attitude can be seen by watching any reality wedding show.  You’ll inevitably see a bride-to-be guilting her fiancé into an elaborate expense by questioning his love for her.  This is an under-handed trick and one I would encourage my male readers not to be fooled by.  Intricate flower arrangements and pricey party favours have nothing to do with how much you love her.

Get On The Same Page

If you want to marry a woman, before you ask her, get an idea of what kind of wedding she wants to have.  This is easy to do with most women since they will take any opportunity to ramble on about their perfect plans.  If she’s looking for a gigantic church wedding for 400 people and you were thinking a quiet ceremony on the beach, it’s a good idea to talk this through before you make any kind of commitment.  During the planning stages, a wedding can swiftly get out of control, so having a clear picture in mind of what both of you want is the key to making it a special day for both of you.  Perhaps you can have your private ceremony on the beach and then return home for a reception including your friends and family.

The Bride’s Day

A wedding day is often referred to as the bride’s day and the wishes of the groom frequently go unheard.  If you couldn’t care less, then you can let your bride have the day she’s always dreamed of and you can just worry about showing up on time and in costume.  If, however, you’d like to have some influence on your big day, it might take a lot of energy to contradict her carefully constructed plans.  There’s no reason you shouldn’t have just as much say as she does.

Exceptions To The Rule

Naturally, there are exceptions to all of the above.  There are women who completely despise the idea of picking out wedding colours and deciding on a menu, and there are men who want to be involved in every step of the process.  For the most part though, it’s going to be the woman who has starry-eyed dreams of her wedding day, while the man just wants to get the thing over with.  I would urge guys not to let it go by so nonchalantly.  It is a special day and you should enjoy yourself while celebrating your commitment to your partner.  Whether that includes flower girls and bouquet tosses is up to you — both of you.