4 Questions to Ask Yourself in a RelationshipBy Lilian Sue [Relationships]
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What do we stop analyzing once we get into a relationship? Lilian Sue reminds us of four crucial questions we need to ask to decide if we should continue a relationship.  I recently heard about the relationship trouble a very close loved one is having, and it made me realize that there are questions that people don’t ask themselves enough when they’re in a relationship. You shouldn’t stop analyzing yourself or your relationship once you become committed to someone. When you feel like you have nothing to learn, gain or change about yourself or the situation, then you’re in danger of being in a less than ideal situation that makes neither of you happy.There’s nothing wrong with asking questions of yourself and your significant other; it shows that you’re paying attention. Being aware of the situation is the first step to changing it, hopefully for the better. We can only lie to ourselves and to each other for so long and, in the end, if nothing’s done, I know from experience that you could end up blaming yourself. You may feel as though you were led completely astray from where you wanted to be and it’s too late to salvage anything. Here are four vital questions that you need to continuously ask yourself to check up on the health of your relationship. Am I Allowing Myself to be Blind? The above question is often a difficult one to answer because many people don’t want to admit that they know there’s something wrong. They believe that if they persevere and ignore the problem, it’ll get better. In order to get an idea of where you stand, listen to the people around you who love you. Yes, their viewpoints towards your significant other may be biased, but they could have valid reasons. Question why your loved ones look at your significant other a certain way, and you might discover that what you’d been denying for so long deep down, does turn out to be true. Is Compromising Possible? In situations that call for compromise, you need to assess whether or not you and your significant other are willing to compromise. If you want kids right away and your significant other wants to wait, see if you can agree on perhaps waiting, but for a shorter amount of time. Perhaps it’s an issue of finances or maybe one of you gets a job offer that would interfere with your home life. In such a situation, you have to ask yourself whether or not it’s worth adding the extra stress into your life, especially if it’s unstable to begin with. If it isn’t, it may be time to cut your losses and fold sooner rather than later as the situation isn’t going to improve overnight. |
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