View From Venus: Online Dating Profile Tips for MenBy Sarah Stefanson [Personals]
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 Yeah sure, I know looks aren’t everything, but when it comes to romantic relationships, let’s just face the fact that physical attraction is imperative. Therefore, a picture (or three, ideally) is required for your online profile. The dating sites don’t lie when they tell you that profiles with pictures get viewed far more often than those without, so even if you’re not totally confident with how you look, put one up anyway. Make sure it is a good quality shot that clearly shows your face. Try to avoid doing any photoshopping of flaws as the idea is that your date will eventually see you in person where such edits are not possible. Other important tips for photos are don’t use shots of you making goofy faces or doing embarrassing, intoxicated things with your buddies, under no circumstances should you post a picture of yourself in an intimate embrace with a girl and feel free to include something in the photos that is important to you (for example: your dog, your guitar or your car), but don’t let it outshine your presence in the photograph. The Hard Part Everyone knows the hardest part of creating an online profile is writing that dreaded About Me paragraph. Since everyone is already aware of this, don’t bother starting your blurb off with, “It’s really hard for me to write about myself like this.” Choose your adjectives carefully and use words that truly describe the person you are. Don’t claim to have characteristics you don’t have in order to impress. Be honest and share your best qualities. You may worry that some aspects of your life will be a deterrent to finding love. Some things do not necessarily need to be shared right away, but others cannot be hidden for even a moment. You don’t have to come out in the open immediately if you are on anti-depressants, but the fact that you have kids is essential information straight out of the gate. Outright lies are bad, but finessing the truth is encouraged. For example, I think very few women would find, “My life revolves around hockey, my truck and beer,” to be irresistible. Even if this is true, try softening the blow by saying, “I enjoy sports, spending time with friends and having a good time.” Naturally, every woman will find different things attractive in a man, so there are no hard and fast rules about what to present in this area, but use your common sense and present your best self. ________________________ the next step Once your profile is perfected, you can start approaching the women that strike your fancy. The trick with initial contacts is to aim somewhere between too eager and too casual. You want to let her know you are interested, but any sense of desperation dampens your appeal automatically. Unless you happen to be Brad Pitt, you’ll probably have to learn to deal with rejection on occasion, but don’t let it lessen your enthusiasm to find the right woman for you. Tell Sarah what you think at sarah (at) thesoko (dot) com. |
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