Is E-Dumping Hard to Do?By Audley Stephenson [Dating]
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What would Neil Sedaka have to say about dumping someone online? Audley Stephenson discusses how it feels to be e-dumped.  In the early 60s, American pop star, Neil Sedaka’s “Breaking Up Is Hard to Do” was number 1 on the Billboard Hot 100. Today, artists like Britney Spears are singing the same song and using email and text messages to help make breaking up a bit easier.We turn to modern day technology for help with most of our lifestyle choices. We use GPS tracking systems to assist with navigation, iPods to arrange music preferences and email and text messaging are emerging as the tools of choice when we want to communicate with one another. Society moves at a much quicker pace then it did in Sedaka’s time and people want to constantly receive information faster. At the same time, the number of couple breakups continues to increase at a steady pace. When you add those two factors together, it only makes sense that more people are finding electronic “Dear John” messages in their inbox. It would appear the phenomenon of ‘e-dumping’ has slowly developed into a perfectly acceptable way of doing things. One of the possible supporting factors could be the increased popularity of internet dating. Perhaps e-dumpers feel completely justified in taking this approach to end a relationship. After all, if you met online, what’s wrong with breaking up there? Those on the receiving end aren’t as nonchalant about it though. Many of them believe that their feelings have been undermined by removing the all-important in-person element. New opinions about the kind of person their former partner is quickly develop. Here’s a look at five of these viewpoints: They’re Selfish E-dumpers are self-serving and prefer not to deal with the emotions of others. They protect themselves by composing messages that suit their purposes of escaping face-to-face interaction. This act can demonstrate that they’re more concerned with their own interests and benefits as opposed to the other person. They may not handle emotional situations particularly well and see this approach as a way of saving themselves from having to actually deal with it. They’re Insensitive When people e-dump, they demonstrate a lack of sensitivity to the needs of others by simply thinking that it’s okay to click, send and walk away. If they stopped for a moment and put themselves in the other person's shoes, then they’d know how upsetting it can be to suddenly receive that kind of message. This lack of empathy causes them to come across as cold and callous. |
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