First Date LiesBy Audley Stephenson [Dating]
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 EmbarrassmentWe all have a closet full of skeletons that we would rather not have people know about. It’s far easier, less embarrassing and much safer to leave the past in the past. After all, what they don’t know can’t hurt them, right? Habitual As bad as it sounds, there are some that can’t help themselves and lie continually like its second nature. Habitual liars are scary because they’ll lie to anyone about anything without any particular reason. Self Esteem Perhaps you have a low self image and think that nobody will like you for who you are. With the proverbial sea filled with so many fish, you don’t want to come across as being boring or the second date will never happen. We know it’s not good idea, but we do it anyways. Here are a few examples showing why you shouldn’t lie about yourself. Destroys Trust Trust is the foundation on which most relationships are built. Our ability to be comfortable with one another hinges on how much we believe in the other person. The more we trust someone, the more comfortable we are with exposing our wants, desires and dreams. The relationship could be in serious jeopardy if it’s been discovered that it was established on a foundation of dishonesty. Loss of Identity Lying up front denies people the opportunity of getting to know you as a person. You may have impressed your date with exploits or dreams that aren’t yours, but you’ve robbed yourself of ever knowing what they thought about the real you. Creating a false image of someone you’re not puts you at risk of losing your sense of identity. It’s Tough Work My mom told me as a kid that if you’re going to be a liar, then you need to have a good memory to keep up. Trying to remember which person you told which story to can be mentally exhausting. Freeing your mind from the burden of lying will help you think clearer and relieve yourself of the constant juggling. Plus it’s a lot easier to remember the truth than a bunch of lies. Hurt Others We don’t often think about hurting the other person when we’re dating for the first time, but they have feelings with a ‘handle with care’ sticker on them too. Lying to someone we don’t know very well may be easier on our conscience, but it hurts to know that you’ve been lied to, no matter who you are. _______________________ truth be told Lies are told on the first date to create a good impression about ourselves so we can get that all important second date. Sooner or later the truth does come out and all the work we put into trying to be irresistible can easily be lost. Uncovering a string of lies can lead to a road filled with mistrust, anger and lost opportunity. So, the best bet is to tell the truth from the beginning. Visit Audley's blog at www.alwaysmakeyourmark.blogspot.com. |
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