How To Bring Up Issues With Your PartnerBy Niki Naderi [Relationships]
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Sometimes the truth hurts, but Niki Naderi shows you how to soften the blow.  You love him or her a lot right? The majority of the time he or she is the sweetest boyfriend or girlfriend you could ever ask for and you’re so grateful to have him or her around. Of course! But, there is also that other side of your relationship that your subconscious nags you to pay attention to, but for the most part remains hindered by the rest of your brain, so everything is fine. Now, as unfortunate as it might be, sometimes we have to face these nagging thoughts and work through them in one way or another. There are many ways to go about this, but in the end, I have come to the conclusion that being honest and open with your significant other is the best approach. Mind you, I’m not suggesting that the minute you have an issue with your boyfriend or girlfriend you should run up to them and spill your guts. I repeat, do not proceed directly to the person you are upset with to vent your frustrations. Instead, consider these strategies and tips as your crash course in how to incorporate honesty and open lines of communication in your relationship. Third Party Yes, I understand that the first thing I mentioned was that it is important to be honest with your significant other, so going to talk to a third party may seem a bit off. However, this is one of the most crucial steps of all. In order to be able to be honest and reasonable when you speak to your significant other about issues you might have in your relationship, I recommend you try to explain how you’re feeling to a neutral third party. Seek out a level headed and unbiased friend who can help sort through the jumble of emotions going through your mind. If anything this will help to clarify exactly what is upsetting you, which can (believe it or not) be the difference between a discussion and a full blown fight. Reconsider For Yourself After your vent session, take a few minutes to contemplate the situation for yourself. Perhaps your friend has managed to impart some sort of wisdom to help guide you along your path of honesty. This chance to clarify the situation for yourself should motivate you to reconsider your game plan. Instead of going on the offensive, bringing issues up as neutrally and as calmly as possible can only work in your favour. Making a rash decision and jumping into a touchy subject can make a somewhat unpleasant element of your relationship much worse in a matter of seconds. If anyone knows the extreme difficulty of stopping yourself from attacking, it’s me. I also know that not taking the time to make sure you can clearly explain what you are thinking can result in some disasters, so really, what do you have to lose? |
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