Satisfactory sex calls for enthusiasm and attention from both partners.  If one of you is seriously not in the mood, but goes along with it anyway, it can make the whole experience unpleasant for both of you.  Guys, you may think all you need is the gratification of the act, but if your unenthused girlfriend lies there like a corpse the whole time, you’ll find your vigour will wane too.  Ladies, pop culture teaches us that men are ALWAYS in the mood, ready and willing to have sex at the drop of a hat.  In real life, of course, we know this to be highly untrue.  If your man isn’t into it, you’re not going to get much out of it either. 

If your partner isn’t on the same page, introduce yourself to your favourite sex toy or your own two very capable hands.  More times than not, watching you pleasuring yourself is all the incentive your partner will need to join in on the fun!

“I Have A Huge Assignment Due Tomorrow.”

Stress can seriously kill the mood.  When your mind is elsewhere, it can be very difficult to concentrate on the pleasure at hand.  Making it all the way to orgasm can prove to be virtually impossible.  If your partner indeed has a huge assignment due the next day, is preoccupied with the trouble a new manager at work is presenting or is buried in a pile of undone tasks, it may be an understandable reason to take a rain check on making out.

“I’m Having My Period.”

This one obviously applies to only one gender, but believe it or not, it can work both ways.  Many women experience all kinds of disagreeable symptoms while menstruating including bloating, cramping, nausea and headaches, so it’s understandable she might not feel her sexiest at this time of the month.  For others, menstruation is a highly sexualized time.  Hormones are working on overdrive at this time of the month, so some women will feel extra amorous.

Which brings us to the guys.  Many guys won’t even consider having sex with a girl who is having her period.  The idea of the blood grosses them out.  This is fair enough, because he can’t be expected to perform when he feels icky.  On the other hand, there are some men who don’t mind a roll in the hay when it’s a little messy.  Trying doing it in the shower, or spread out some towels on the bed beforehand to avoid making too much of a mess. 

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These “excuses” are sometimes real reasons for putting off lovemaking, so don’t second-guess yourself if your lover claims to have a headache next time you start nuzzling suggestively.  If you are constantly hearing excuses like these, however, you might have deeper problems in your relationship.  Open the lines of communication and ask your partner what the problem really is.  If all else fails, seek the help of a qualified sex therapist.