The next thing to decide is where it’s going to happen.  Do not do it in her bed, your bed or the bed you share together.  The third party’s place is probably not a good idea either.  Your best bet is to meet someplace neutral.  Book a hotel room for the night.  This makes the occasion seem more special and out of the ordinary, while having the added bonus of being a place you never have to come back to if things go wrong.

Confidence Is Key

In the days leading up to the big event, make sure to lay a lot of confidence building groundwork with your girl.  Most girls like this kind of reassurance under normal circumstances and right now, she’ll likely need even more of it.  If the idea of sharing you is making her at all nervous, she needs to know you are totally committed to her and think she’s gorgeous.  Don’t overdo it, but let it come naturally.  Slipping in little comments about her sexy butt or beautiful eyes should be a normal part of your day.

Don’t Cross The Line

Well before the night in question, establish ground rules that apply to you, her and the other girl.  Talk about what exactly is allowed and what isn’t.  Get very specific.  It may seem funny to hash out every little detail, but this will save you a lot of trouble down the road.  Once you’ve confirmed the dos and don’ts, let the other girl in on what you’ve decided and give her a chance to tell you whether or not she’s comfy with it.

Once this list is made, DO NOT violate these boundaries, no matter how tempted you are, and even if your girlfriend changes her mind during the threesome.  Stick to the plan and do only what you decided on earlier.

Safety First

If you’ve put enough thought into this, you should have enough time to make sure everyone gets tested for STIs.  If you trust enough to go ahead without test results, make sure to still keep things safe.  Come well stocked with condoms, spermicide, dental dams and any other contraceptive devices you feel necessary.  Don’t forget to use them in the heat of the moment.  They are there to make sure all you take home with you is a great memory.

Dividing Your Attention

When it comes to the actual act, in order to make all your planning and hard work worth while, you’ll want to make absolutely sure that you don’t pay more attention to your third party than you do to your girl.  If your partner is afraid of anything, it is probably that you think the other girl is more attractive.  Don’t let her feel neglected.  A good way to avoid this is to encourage the girls to pay attention to each other and make yours a supporting role to both of them.

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three’s company

If you have been careful to consider all the angles every step of the way, you should be able to pull off a hot, safe and gratifying experience for all three of you.  Putting together a threesome is not an easy task, but when done well, it can have amazing results.