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Single life has its benefits, but there are a few aspects that you won’t mind leaving behind. Sarah Stefanson gives you something else to celebrate when you meet that special someone.

Many of us share the goal of eventually finding the right person and settling down. There are plenty of exciting and positive things about the dating process, but there are also things that every single girl would gladly say goodbye to once she gets into a committed relationship. You may be giving up some freedoms once you enter a long-term coupling, but you exchange it for avoiding some of these annoying experiences.

What to Wear

Getting ready for a date with a new guy can be a nerve-wracking experience. You want to make the best first impression and what you wear will go a long way in creating it. Many girls end up emptying their closets onto the bed and trying on various outfits until they come across the perfect one. You don’t want to dress too provocatively, but you also don’t want to appear to be a prude. You want to be comfortable, but not too casual. Then you have to find the appropriate jewellery and accessories. Getting your hair and makeup done is also a chore.

Sometimes playing dress up is fun, but with all the pressure of a first date, it often becomes frustrating. Once you are in a relationship, you worry less about what to wear when you meet your sweetheart for coffee. It is important, however, that you still put some effort into how you look. A lot of people take marriage or a commitment as a cue to let themselves go. While you can be more comfortable with someone you love and trust, constantly showing up in sweats with greasy hair is probably going to dampen the love vibe pretty quickly.

Will He Call?

So the first date goes off without a hitch. You’re into the guy. He’s smart, charming and good-looking. Now comes the hard part: waiting for his call. You hope you’ve made the same positive impression on him as he’s left with you, but you never know. There are a variety of opinions on how long one should wait after a date before calling, usually ranging from one day to three. The general consensus is if he doesn’t call within three days, he’s not going to.

Of course, you could take the initiative and do the post-date call yourself. If you choose this route, however, you’ll have to pay more attention to subtle hints about his attitude toward a second date. If you suggest getting together again and he hems and haws, it may be a clue that he’s not that into you. Or he could just be remarkably busy at work. The only way to find out is to ask.

Pathetic Come-ons

In a bar or club environment, guys can get pretty creative with the pick up lines. So being able to flash the symbol of commitment on your finger can help repel the creepy guys that hit on you from all sides. Of course, a ring, a boyfriend or any other sign of being taken won’t always register with some persistent guys, but being able to say you’re with someone is a good way to enjoy dancing with your girlfriends without having to worry about the pathetic come-ons.

This effect can also be achieved by slipping one of your regular rings onto your ring finger for the night. This is one circumstance where it’s okay to fake it.

Single Sympathy

If there’s one complaint I hear most often from my single friends it is that everyone treats them as if not being coupled is freakish or abnormal. You may enjoy your independence and have no need for a man, but your grandmother will still want to know why you haven’t met a nice boy yet. When and if you finally do find someone you want to make a commitment to, it’ll be nice to be able to introduce him to Grandma, so she can stop worrying that you’re a lesbian.

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single vs. coupled

Single life can be tons of fun. You have all the freedom you need to date who you want, when you want. Meeting new people can be enriching, even if they don’t turn out to be someone you want to pledge your fidelity to. On the other hand, it would be nice to skip those bad first dates with the Neanderthal or Mr. Hopelessly Boring. Unfortunately, you can’t pick and choose your dating experiences, so you’re bound to have some bad ones.

Being coupled isn’t a cure-all for every aspect of your life, of course, but being committed to the right person can provide with you feeling of safety, trust and unconditional love. Naturally, there’s a bad side to relationships as well, but that’s a story for another article.